I’m fine.

 

We become sad. At times. And we feel the most sadness when we start to tear up and cry. We cry when we are left alone at school, or when we hit ourselves over the head with a ball as a child. We cry when we fly alone to go to college. We cry when we receive a first heartbreak. And a second, and a third.

It’s ridiculous and useless when you think about it. Nothing really gets accomplished. But why do it? Why do we cry?

This is not going to be one of those psychology posts that explains scientifically why you cry, no. But deep down, you’re bound to know why you are crying, even without the scientific terms and jargon. And even if when people coerce you to tell them why, you don’t.

We cry to let people know that we are not okay. We are in pain, we are overwhelmed. And some kind of reassurance that everything is going to be okay is the expected response to the listeners. It’s kind of both a convenience and inconvenience if you think about it, there really is just no way to hide what you’re feeling unless you are really good at hiding them.

I’m alright.

But nowadays, it doesn’t happen that way, where people express an immediate response of empathy. People are being conditioned that crying is weak, and unappealing. Even women are not supposed to cry, in this age of feminism and women empowerment. Men are not exempted of this fact, even if women express that they love a man who can cry. And no, sweating through your eyes is not going to cut it.

We are supposed to strong independent individuals and we need to appear that way even if the darkest corners of your heart are craving for a good cry, a good shout that “Hey! I need some help!”

Because we are supposed to be strong. We are supposed to be strong enough to face whatever challenges overcome us.

I’m okay.

We are supposed to be fine. I cannot stress enough how bad that simple word appears. We have ended up in a world where people are only allowed to cry behind closed doors. Only to the closest of people that you know will empathize, and even those are already so hard to find.

We cry to let people know we are not okay. When we don’t, people will just pass by and think that we are, even if we are not.

And people will just pass by.

And feelings will be left unheard.

And you walk on, and you say that one line to yourself once more.

“I’m fine.”

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Dropping The Ballot: Are We Really Voting?

Weeks ago we held the election period for our university student council. As it is done every year, I expected nothing less than room-to-room campaigns and other forms of political strategies. As the university student council elections come to a close, and I receive my “oh, you voted” button, I thought about the consequences of the future, not just in my university, but  when leaders need to be reelected once more in all parts of the world.

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Anyone Can Be Famous

Alex from Target
The internet put him on TV. Nothing crazier than packing groceries one day, then on camera the next. (Picture taken from ABC News)

Last November there was a teenage boy photographed without his knowledge while on the job. This photo was posted on the internet and soon became viral: created memes and jokes over the internet. He became an overnight celebrity. The name of this trend? Alex from Target.

Why would a picture of a Target employee become viral? What is so compelling?

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Exercise: What Everyone Really Says

One of the advertisements that bombarded me in Youtube was this Nike Commercial called ‘Better for It‘. I usually skip commercials when I can, but for the first time in months, I didn’t skip this one. It was that good.

No shame in running half a half marathon.

The commercial shows the thoughts of women when they exercise, and I must say that these thoughts are not far off. Coming from a woman that is not… athletic (at all, mind you), I have said these words before. Halfway through the ad I was smiling already because I know that the statements were true. While I watched this, I thought about how the fitness landscape has changed to what it is today.

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Perceptions On Beauty

I never really saw myself as an attractive person. In today’s standard of beauty, I could never have that confidence. But I guess this goes for all girls that care a significant amount about how people see them physically. It’s one of those things that are supposed to be looked at inwardly, something you complain about alone while looking at a mirror, but given the free-communications of the Internet, we can find that “why am i so…” on Google will bring up my point.

It’s been one of my long standing opinions that beauty is arbitrary. “In the eye of the beholder,” and all that. But sometimes, you can’t help but notice the small imperfect things about your physical appearance, that we feel a little… “too”.

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Language and Local Children’s Shows

While having a lone breakfast near the house the TV was open for everyone’s entertainment. As far as I know it was pretty common for local carinderias (eateries) to have this kind of leeway to customer patience, but what I find quite different that morning, was the educational children’s shows.

The television drew my attention as it played that familiar tune from a childhood that can’t yet afford cable. It was the flagship educational show for Math (or Maths, however you call it) that was around when I was a child, and I didn’t know they were airing it again, since I didn’t own a TV. But there was something strange about it this time around. Continue reading “Language and Local Children’s Shows”